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This is the website of Philip Henderson leadership coach.

Ethical Magician, Oxen Teamster, and Inspirational Listener

At LeadersWithIntegrity.com you can get a sample of Ethical Magic, begin the process of becoming an empathic listener, and learn how ethical magic can transform you to become an ethical leader in your home, your work, and your community.

Ethical Magic Empathic Listening
I am a student of human consciousness and ethics.  I have combined my passion for understanding consciousness and ethics into a coaching practice.  In this practice I work with individuals to coach them to become outstanding ethical leaders in their home, work and communities.  This is my gift to the universe. 

I am an amateur magician.  I have combined the theory of magic with my experience in business as a leader and manager to produce a paradigm changing exercise program I call "Ethical Sleight-Of-Mind." Clients and students are transformed from successful people to outstanding ethical leaders in their home, work, and community. 

Peer inside this website and see if there is a jewel waiting for you.  If you are looking for a leadership coach you will find that I offer something different from your ordinary coach--I use magic to transform my clients into ethical leaders in their home, work, and community. 

Listening is the Lost Art of Communication.  We are taught how to read and write in school for more than eight years.  However, in all that time very little effort is given to teaching effective listening. 

Most people are unable to listen with empathy to the most important people in their lives.  Unable to listen with empathy to their children or spouse  they develop poor relationships with them.  Also unable to listen to their supervisor or subordinates they develop weak relationships with their coworkers. 

Empathic listeners prove to their loved ones and coworkers that they are understood when they speak. As an empathic listener I experience the universe with an open mind.  I am here to learn.  Seven years ago I wrote a thought piece inspired by empathic listening.  I call the writing, Your Nose Knows.  Click below to read this text.

The Nose Knows.001.pdf

Oxen Teamster Ethical Leaders Toolkit

 

How Philip Henderson became Oxen Teamster Philip

I began visiting the annual Orange County Fair in the late 1990’s inspired by my friend Robert Eto.  Robert showed me a blue ribbon he won for baking a cookie in the annual cooking contest.  Robert told me that he used a recipe for a diabetic cookie that his mother had used for many years.  I thought, Robert doesn’t know how to cook, how can he win prizes at the Orange County Fair.  I decided to enter in the next year’s contest.  I entered and won several ribbons for my cooking.  I was hooked.  I entered every year winning several prizes each year.  I would attend the Fair three or four times each year spending time looking at the various exhibits. 

          At the 2003 Fair, I was looking through the schedule of activities and noticed there was a demonstration of goats in the Livestock Arena.  I knew nothing about goats so I choose to see this exhibition.  At the conclusion of the goat exhibit I noticed a fellow bringing a cart into the Livestock Arena . . . the cart was pulled by two large bulls with enormous horns.  The fellow walked alongside the bulls and they appeared to be following his instructions.  I looked at the daily schedule and saw this was the Oxen Team from the Centennial Farm.  I decided to stay for this show.  I was spellbound.  The fellow bringing the oxen into the arena was Bill Richards, a volunteer at the Centennial Farm.  He called himself an oxen drover.  The oxen were beautiful.  Drover Richards showed they were smart too!  I wanted to know more.

At the end of Bill Richards demonstration, he asked for questions from the audience.  I asked the first question, then the third question, then the fifth question.  In short , every other question was from me.  When Richards announced that his time in the arena was over, my final question was can I follow you back to where you are going.  Richards invited me to join him in his exhibit only about fifty yards away from the Livestock Arena.  I stayed with him for the next three hours until it was time for me to return home.  I promised to bring my wife to see the cattle the next weekend.  Merna was curious about my interest in the oxen and agreed to join me.  Merna agreed that the oxen were beautiful.  When I suggested that she might want to become an oxen teamster her first response was no.  she complained that they had enormous horns and weighed more than 2,000 pounds . .  . too large for her comfort zone.

I finally was able to convince her to learn to be an oxen drover, by suggesting that this could be a husband-wife joint experience.  I would join her in the work.  You see I was not interested in becoming an oxen teamster.  I just thought she would enjoy being outside at the Centennial Farm showing children the farm animals.  Merna loved animals and children.  I had had limited experience with animals and no experience with children.   At age 56, I didn’t think it was time for me to add farm animals and children to my resume.   On the other hand, this seemed to me to be a perfect mix for Merna.  In September 2003, Merna and I began our volunteer service at the Centennial Farm.  We started serving as docents giving tours to the children who visited the Farm.  After a couple of months we began working with the oxen.  We helped to give them a daily bath.  We groomed them and learned how to give the oxen commands.  By March 2004 it was clear to me that Merna was still uncomfortable around the oxen.  She told me that they appeared gentle enough but their sheer size was intimidating to her.  While Merna excused herself, I continued to volunteer at the Centennial Farm.  As of May 3, 2013, I have volunteered or worked at the farm for 9 years and 9 months.  I have been a temporary employee for eight of the last nine annual Fairs.  I am a volunteer during the school year.

Since I began volunteering in September 2003, I have presented the oxen to more than 300,000 schoolchildren, giving more than 10,000 individual presentations.   I have been fortunate to spend about 1,000 hours each year with the oxen.  Every moment with these wonderful animals is a blessing.  Cattle radiate peacefulness.  I consider the time I am with the oxen a therapeutic session.  We pass peacefulness back and forth to each other.  They are as comfortable with me as I am with them.  The greatest honor I receive from the oxen is their acceptance as a member of their herd.  I know that they are grateful to have me as a herd member.  When I enter their corral the oxen notice me but do not make a big issue of my presence.  If I want them to move they will go where I desire them. However, if I do not give a command, the oxen will resume the activities they were about before I arrived, whether that was eating, resting, and investigating something new in their corral. 

I have become a better human being since I started driving the oxen.  The oxen teach me humility.  The oxen have taught me that it is important for me to be human and feel a wide range of human emotions, and to feel them deeply and fully.  Cattle enjoy a rich emotional life.  Patches and Freckles have invited me into the world of cattle.  Because they treat me as an equal, I feel that I have been elevated.  Patches and Freckles were three years old when we brought them from New Hampshire in May 2007.  Each ox weighed about 1,600 pounds; today, fully grown, each ox weighs almost 3,000 pounds.  They stand about six feet at the whithers, and stretch more than eleven feet from the tip of their nose to the base of their tale.  These are large, powerful animals.  They are gentle animals.  Smart too!  They appear to possess prodigious memories about other animals, especially humans.  They can read the emotions of humans with outstanding accuracy.  I am grateful to have cattle in my life.

I did not have a lifelong desire to be with cattle.  My discovery of these animals was merely accidental.  If you had asked me in September 2003 if I wanted to become an oxen teamster, I would have said no.  I am just doing this to encourage and support my wife’s interest in animals.  However, today I cannot imagine what my life would be like without cattle.  I was feel very lonesome.  In 2003 the oxen team were Devon Cattle, Bill and Bob were there names.  When Bob died at age 13 in 2007, the folks at the Centennial Farm chose to continue the oxen program with a new pair of young oxen instead of attempting to find a partner for Bill.  I checked all over the Internet for a trained team.  Eventually I discovered that the Rural Heritage website had the best listing of oxen for sale.  Searching their Oxen for Sale page I identified seven or eight oxen teams that on paper seemed to meet our needs at the Centennial Farm.

I traveled to New Hampshire in the Spring of 2007 to test drive the selected teams.  Evy Young, the director of the Centennial Farm, and I flew to Manchester, New Hampshire and rented a car.  Heading due North we completed a huge circle around the White Mountains stopping at small farms that we had to discover through perseverance.  Altogether, I test drove nine teams of oxen.  We had some great choices because four of the teams were outstanding.  Each brought their own strong characteristics that were different from each other.  We chose Patches and Freckles because: (1) they were well trained, (2) they had great names for our audiences, (3) they had an attractive appearance, and (4) they are from a heritage breed of cattle the American Lineback.  Lineback are a rare breed, fewer than 2,000 are alive today.  The breed was started about 200-years ago as a dairy breed.  Today we rely on the Holstein for ninety percent of dairy, thus the breed has languished.  We are pleased to have this American breed represented at the Centennial Farm.

Bill and Bob were also from a heritage breed, the American Milking Devon.  The Devon breed was the favorite of famed agriculturalist, President George Washington.  This president was as important for his contribution to agriculture as http://leaderswithintegrity.com/Centennial%20Farm%20May%202010%20087.JPGhe was to politics and government.  George Washington’s home, Mount Vernon, operates today as an example of an experimental farm that still houses heritage breeds of fowl, swine, and bovines.  Mount Vernon even has a working team of Milking Devon oxen to plough their fields.  The next time I visit the Washington, D.C. area, I will be certain to make a side trip study this national park.

I have worked with Bill, Bob, Patches, and Freckles.  Each animal has his own personality.  Bill is my all time favorite.  When Bob was alive the teamsters referred to Bob as the Sweet, and Gentle Ox; Bill was to everyone El Toro Loco, the Crazy Ox.  Bill was not a little bit loco, he was Grande Loco.  I was never sure how Bill would behave, even in a circumstance he had experienced thousands of times before.  Bill knew how to introduce the teamster to a surprise!  I miss him a lot.  I have at least one hundred stories that I collected while handling Bill.  The good side of being with a crazy ox is that it makes handling Bob, Freckles, and Patches easy by comparison.  The photograph with me and Bill was taken five days before his death.  Teamster Nancy and I had just bathed the big baby.  He was enjoying standing in the sun to dry when Nancy snapped this image.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Bill was a crowd favorite at the OC Fair. At the end of our presentations in the Livestock Arena, we invited guests to pose with the oxen in the arena. When Bill was part of our show, people would wait in line to approach him even when Patches and Freckles were available. Bill was special to everyone who got to know him.

Patches and Freckles were the stars of the 2012 Orange County Fair oxen exhibit. Tens of thousands of visitors posed with them for photographic souvenirs of their visit to this year's OC FAIR. More than 1,300,000 visitors came to enjoy the exhibits, fried food, entertainment, and pure fun at the 2012 Fair including Brianna and Judy Bodwell. Judy purchased the oxen as four-week-old bullocks and her daughter Brianna trained them to become oxen. We were pleased to have Judy and Brianna as our special guests the first two days of the 2012 OC Fair.

Last year, the oxen teamsters broke open a 30-inch diameter Sycamore log (Platanus Racemosa).  It took us most of the Fair to break this beast of a log.  We undertook this project as the first step in carving a new yoke beam for the oxen team.  The log was seven feet long and weighed more than 2,000 pounds.  After cracking the log open, we began the tedious task of carving it down to size.  I am happy to report that the yoke beam is almost complete.  I am merely waiting for the iron hardware to finish the project.  The iron rings are used as the hitch so the yoke can be linked to a chain or a wagon tongue.  We will be using the new Sycamore yoke at the 2013 edition of the Orange County Fair.  When you see me, ask me how we carved the yoke.  It is a long story, but a good story.  We used only hand tools to create this new yoke.  Several hundred hours of carving produced a strong and beautiful new yoke beam.  See you at the Fair!

 

The MAY 2013 Edition

is available now!

A Leadership Essay:  Earn the Right to be Called an Ox 

Recommended Reading:  SO FAR FROM HOME: Lost and Found in our brave new world © 2012 by Margaret “Meg” Wheatley, PhD

Supervisor's Success Tip:  It is Your Right to Write

Empathic Listening:  Listen to the Sounds of WAR

Integrity. Confidentiality. Courage. Ethics.  Time for a personal coach.

To read an Adobe version of the newsletter please click _fpclass\MAY2013.003.pdf for the May 2013 edition of Ethical Leaders Toolkit.


MARCH 2012 Edition

available now!

A Leadership Essay: Carving an ox yoke using hand tools

Recommended Reading: SO FAR FROM HOME: Lost and Found in our brave new world © 2012 by Margaret “Meg” Wheatley, PhD

Supervisor's Success Tip:  Who is your Mentor?

Empathic Listening: Listen to the sounds of WAR

Integrity. Confidentiality. Courage. Ethics.  Time for a personal coach.

To read an Adobe version of the newsletter please click MARCH2013.003.pdf for the MARCH 2013 edition of Ethical Leaders Toolkit.


Are you reading every day?  Are you writing every day?  Are you listening empathically to your loved ones?  Listen to your children with empathy and you will have given them the greatest gift you have to offer!


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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